Monday, July 13, 2009
The whole story
I'm still working on the over-protective thing. This little kid bowled over Kaiya on the way up the ladder at the pool and before I could even stop myself I was growling at him to "stop, she's a baby!" Of course she's not a baby. And he was only like five. I was actually more annoyed at his parents since he had been bobbing beside us and kept bugging me, desperate for attention, and they were on the other side of the pool gabbing with friends for an hour. I mean, I get hanging out with friends but when you're there with little ones, who don't swim that well, stop being selfish and shut up already. Or talk to your kid for a change. Of course now I'm doing what I was hoping everyone else wasn't, which was judging me. I find that the heat does not make me the most pleasant person in the world and the grueling walk over to the pool tends to drain me. I do much better once we get in and I can cool off but by then I'm fuming at all the dirty looks getting shot my way. Here's the thing: we don't know the rest of the story. You see those other, judging mothers, don't know that on this day Kaiya had already been to the pool. And she had had a cupcake treat for being such a good helper and an ice cream treat just for the heck of it (ok, it was a bribe to get her to nap) and the one thing we've been working on is getting her to slow down a bit and listen so she doesn't run straight into things and get hurt. So when we get to the pool and she tears off, she gets fussed at. Which of course leads me to wonder. I don't know their story. Maybe it was long lost friends that they were desperate to catch up with. Maybe I should just assume they looked over and saw a pleasant (ha!) pregnant lady and a little girl and so they figured their kid was fine. Maybe they were just having a bad day too. And who knows, maybe the judging mothers have the best of intentions too? Maybe they are actually giving me looks of pity because they have been six months pregnant in July in Texas with a toddler in tow and they know the special torture that is. So here's to at least skimming the book before deciding if I like the ending or not.